2006-08-22
Smile pretty and play nice.
My Man Roomie (Moomie?) has this friend. Actually, he has this ex-girlfriend that is now his friend. Or actually, he has this ex-girlfriend who he has sex with while keeping up the context of "friends".
And I. Cannot. Stand. Her.
There is a history to my dislike. When the Moomie and this ex were dating, she was a completely unpleasant. She treated me and all of our friends with contempt, hating us because we prevented the Moomie from focusing 100% of his attention on her. What's worse, she treated the Moomie like crap, playing all sorts of mind games that give women a bad name, only to dump him for someone else. So when Moomie told me they were hanging out again, I was more than suspicious.
But whatever, they're "friends". He's forgiven her, good for him. But I still don't like her. And it's not just based off of her past actions, I just don't like her as a person. I find her personality grating and whenever I'm around her, I can feel my blood pressure rise.
As much as I would like to create an apartment-wide ban in this apartment, I realize that she is going to be around and I do my best to be civil. I say hello, make small talk when necessary, and then wait for a good time leave the room and let them be, thereby making the situation a little more comfortable for everyone.
Except that is not enough for her. Now she wants to be friends and is pissed that I don't want to hang out with them. And I know this because I heard her bitch about me while standing in my kitchen, while I was within earshot. And the Moomie keeps convincing her that I'll come around, one of these days.
What the hell am I supposed to do now? If I don't start hanging out with her, I'm a bitch. But what am I if I pretend to be friends with someone I don't like?
I think what really bothers me about this, is that when three of the Moomie's male friends were visiting, they all refused to hang out with his ex because they don't like her either, and that was ok with the Moomie. But I'm supposed to ignore my feelings and force myself to do something I don't want to do, all in the name of being nice.
I don't want to play nice. I don't want to pretend to be friends with someone I don't like. I'm not being mean, I don't go out of my way to make her uncomfortable or unhappy, I just keep our interactions to a minimum. But apparently, if I'm honest I'm not a good person. If I lie, I'm a good person, but I feel like a two-face.
And I thought having a Moomie would limit the amount of drama that would develop inside my own home.
corin82 at 8:06 p.m.